Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice by Robert J. Rubel

personal sensitivity concerning this point - that I will aggres sively challenge any failure to keep an Agreement - I explain
how to manage Agreements to those who work closely with me.
Similarly, on those occasions that I feel an Agreement is needed
to accomplish some significant task, I'm careful to review the
component parts of the Agreement and remind the slave of the
importance of communicating changes to me ahead of time.

    Time Commitments
    In my Household, issues of time are important. I view time as one
of the most valuable assets a person possesses. In life, when
you run out of time, you're called dead. Since you don't quite
know when you will run out of time, every day becomes important. In that sense, I care very much how I spend my time and
how my slave spends her time. In addition to the philosophical
underpinnings, time commitments represent a daily opportunity
to keep your word. They are a form of Agreement. If the slave
has been told an arrival or departure time, Master expects that
time to be honored with precision. There will be Consequences
to violating time issues - not the least of which is having to put
up with my reaction to the slave being late.
    Keeping one's word is a core concept within the Leather culture.
From the very beginning of my exposure to the Leather World,
I was struck by the degree of honesty, integrity, and high moral
purpose I found there. If a Leatherman says something will be
done, you can be sure it will be. If I, as Master, have told someone that I will arrive at a certain time, tardiness by my slave will
NOT cause me to be late to that meeting. If my slave is not
ready to leave on time, I will leave without her and attend to her
consequences later.

    Chapter Summary
    In Part I we discussed some common terms and understandings.
In Part II we spent time on self-exploration. Part III was devoted
to grappling with key elements of your relationship. This last part
- Part IV - focused on the framework of your relationship within
the larger structure of your Leather House. Now we're ready to
tackle the marketing question: how do you find a potential partner? If you're already in a relationship, you may skip on to later
parts.

     

This section applies equally to Masters looking for slaves, as to
slaves looking for Masters. This is the time that you think through
how you might want to reach out to such a person and what you
want a prospective partner to know about you. The hunt for a
partner can be extremely casual - almost accidental - or as
highly structured as a job search.
    This section treats this process more like that of searching for a
job. This section presumes that you wish to act in such a way
as to find a slave, rather than to stay cocooned and dream of
finding a slave.
    You may wish to start your search by identifying some outreach
paths:
    • Internet, such as alt.com, slave4master. com, or
collarme.com
    • Local kink clubs - here are some competent search
engines to find kink clubs:

    • Weekend kink conferences:

    Once you have started mingling with like-minded people, the next
hurdle concerns making an appropriate connection that demonstrates your thorough preparation for a relationship. I would
certainly notice it if a petitioning slave came up to me with a card of introduction that gave just the right amount of information, and
then followed up with a resume such as the one I will describe
immediately below. This would communicate his/her clarity of
intent, thoughtfulness about details, and what I call, process.

    Anyway, in my view, personal marketing has components-
    • Stuff: how you present yourself
    0 Exposure: where you present yourself
    0 Follow-through: how you keep track of contacts
    Stuff - Social Calling Cards, Photos, Resume,
Website
    In this day-and-age of computer-generated business cards, it's
easy and inexpensive for someone with computer skills to print
a handful of social calling cards that include a