the same. I have, in my heart, but Iâll never visit him, as he wants me to. I canât and I wonât. Itâs my decision.
Recently, Pops sent a second letter, a real apology, saying heâd joined AA in jail and was a model prisoner. He wrote that heâd been drunk, jealous, stupid and wrong, but had never meant to hurt Mom or any of us.
I stuck that letter in the closet, too.
Last year, Mom met a great man, Jimmy. Theyâre planning on a June wedding. He treats Mom like a queen and me like a princess. Jimmy loves and respects Abuela, too. He works construction, lifts weights and doesnât drink. Heâs Irish-American, but that doesnât bug me.
Mom and Jimmy asked me how Iâd feel about them giving me a baby brother or sister. I told them Iâd love it and gave them my blessing. Iâm glad Jimmyâs a big guy, over six-foot-four, and fearless. Heâll protect us from Pops, in case he ever gets out.
Mom has the right to notification if Pops gets out. He doesnât have a chance at parole for many years, and, evenif he gets it, Pops wonât be allowed to leave the state of New York.
I worry sometimes that Jimmy will change after theyâre married, like Pops did. I asked Mom what sheâd do if he started yelling at her or took up drinking. Mom says she trusts Jimmy completely and that Iâll come to trust him, too. It isnât easy, since I know that love can start out as something good but end up rotten and scary.
Maliâs dating back in Brooklyn, but Iâm not ready for that. I donât want some boy bossing me around. Single, for me, is good.
Today, Iâm not the kid whose dad stabbed her mom. Not the witness, squealer, the crazy manâs daughter. I am me. A New England fifteen-year-old girl with a whole new life.
Abuela and I have a knitting business here, but weâre not all frantic like we were in Brooklyn. When Momâs out, I hang with Abuela. We watch television and knit goodies for a whole new group of girls and ladies.
Abuela babysits for my cousins when TÃa Lucyâs at work. I watch them on weekends when TÃa and Mom double-date.
Pretty soon, I bet weâll be knitting baby clothes for Mom. She wants a baby with all her heart. Sheâll get her happy endingâall three of us will. We pretty much have one already.
Be So Pretty If â¦
I wish I had a dollar for every time Iâve heard somebody say to me, âYouâd be so pretty if you lost some weight,â or another version of the same thing, usually said to my parents or friends, âShe has such a pretty face, but sheâd be so pretty if â¦â
Despite actress América Ferrara doing her show
Ugly Betty
and that movie,
The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants
, as well as JLo, with her famously big booty, no one really thinks that being, or seeing, a fat girl is cool.
Iâve tried dieting, but itâs a real yo-yo thing with me. I lose some, then gain more, lose some, then gain more again.
Between genetics and my extreme love for food, chocolate and fried things, in particular, I am a âbig girl.â I have the large, rounded behind of my mother and the jutting belly of my father.
Until I was eleven years old, I was pretty much just an average chubby kid. Then, at twelve, once I stopped growingâvertically, that isâthe only inches Iâve added have been in width. I just got fatter and fatter. I mean, Iâm not an elephant or anything, but, still, Iâm not too far from becoming obese.
When nutritionists come to talk to girls at school every year, I can always feel them eyeballing me. They might act as if theyâre speaking in general about the health perils of being an overweight teenager, but itâs just me and a few other fat girls and boys theyâre actually hoping to get through to.
In Phys Ed, I surprise everyone by running every bit as fast, or even faster, than my way-skinnier friends.